Manage the Mentoring Relationship

Ensuring that the mentoring program is meeting the expectations of all parties is important in maintaining a successful program. Formal programs may choose to identify a person with whom mentors and mentees can check-in. Informal programs may choose to send surveys, personal e-mails or make follow-up telephone calls.

Monitoring the Relationship

Monitoring the mentoring relationship is very important to all mentoring programs. This is just one way to assure that the mentoring program is meeting expectations of all parties involved, as well as staying aligned with the purpose of the mentoring program.

Providing mentoring participants with an opportunity to share mentoring experiences can be beneficial to participants and the overall vitality of the mentoring program. One such advantage is that someone can be designated to keep an overall view of the effectiveness of the program. Additionally, this person or committee can provide a mechanism for addressing ineffective mentoring relationships before conflicts arise, thus keeping the mentee engaged within the program and providing the mentor with resources to better manage similar situations in the future.

Managing Dysfunctional Mentoring Relationships

Dysfunctional mentoring relationships are inevitable in many mentoring programs. Setting clear boundaries and expectations for both mentors and mentees is the first step in preventing dysfunctional relationships. 

  • Be respectful of differing opinions
  • Be timely (to meetings and with correspondence)
  • Be honest and open
  • Communicate frequently

If there are personality conflicts or other issues that arise beyond the scope of the mentor or mentee role, then those issues should be taken to the mentoring champion for resolutions and/or alternatives.


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